Can my contraception help me cure vaginismus?

Pregnancy, a burden on women.

Vaginism, if we summarise it briefly, is the fact of associating sexuality, or at least penetration, with negative things, or even with a danger. An unwanted pregnancy is a danger.

Some women experience vaginal episodes because they are afraid of getting pregnant - after an abortion for example. For others, the root cause of vaginismus may be the fear of becoming a woman: the rejection of sexuality is a rejection of the reproductive identity assigned to women. For most, the risk of fertility is an additional burden that reinforces vaginismus: it is one pressure among many.

In order to heal, it is absolutely necessary to free the mental burden of contraception, which hinders access to a fulfilled sexuality. You have to choose a contraception that is adapted to vaginal women.

Anything that goes in, goes out.

For vaginic women, anything that looks like an intrusion is complicated. The IUD, the female condom are therefore almost impossible contraceptive methods. But this is not the case for everyone. Some women only experience difficulties during sexual intercourse and can open up during a gynaecological consultation. For others, it's one day with, one day without. The important thing if you decide to put in an IUD, for example, is to talk to your gynaecologist or midwife about your vaginismus, or any difficulties you may have. We must not leave the people who treat us in the dark, otherwise they may be clumsy.

Many women have already experienced a difficult gynaecological consultation, vaginal or not, and this should not be considered as normal, as an obligatory passage. Here is a link to safe caregivers, if you want to consult:

https://gynandco.wordpress.com

Let's start again. If we exclude everything that comes in, where do we turn?

What about hormones?

Hormonal treatments such as the pill or implant appear to be more accessible for vaginal women. No intrusion - except in the arm - and a guarantee of long-term infertility. But when it comes to hormones, the treatment is heavy and impacts both the physical and mental aspect of the women concerned. If you have no side effects or if it is necessary to compensate for other disorders (such as endometriosis), then go for it. Beware, however, that some effects - such as mood changes - are only noticeable when you stop taking it.

Personally, for medical reasons, the pill is not really recommended for me. So I found myself at a dead end, like many women. In the end, it served me well. I was pushed to look for other solutions that were less intrusive, less dangerous for my body and for my health. I found one: symptothermy.

Why not men?

This digression is necessary: if I were to recommend the perfect contraception for women, it would be a male contraception. No hormones, no intrusion, no mental burden. The ring, the male condom, the slip, all meet these conditions and are a huge gain in freedom for women. However, a woman must be able to protect herself without relying on her partner, and I am well aware that if you are reading this article it is to have concrete answers. Also, symptothermy has the advantage of including both partners in contraception.

Symptothermia: the Queen's choice.

Before being a contraception, symptothermia is the observation of one's fertility. As a reminder, women are not fertile during their entire cycle but only during a fertility window - unlike men. This means that in order not to get pregnant, it is not useful to protect yourself daily. It is possible to protect yourself - by using a condom for example - exclusively on fertile days. How does it work in practice?

You can observe your cycle in two ways: your temperature and your cervical mucus, or white discharge. The temperature rises during a fertility peak and the cervical mucus changes appearance during the four phases that make up a cycle. With a practical reliability index equal or superior to that of the pill, symptothermia appears to be the ideal contraception: it includes both partners so the mental burden is shared, and it does not represent a danger to women's health. To find out how to practice it, I refer you to the many sites that deal with the subject, and to the Moonly application, which is quite easy to use.

For me, the only disadvantage of this method, which I do not yet use as contraception, is that it has no effect on menstrual pain.

Curing vaginismus with contraception?

Symptothermia is a contraceptive that is not only suitable for women with vaginismus, but is also a key tool in their recovery. Why is this so? Vaginismus is based on the distance between women and their uterus. They have difficulty getting to know themselves, and therefore have difficulty opening up. Observing cervical mucus can be done with the insertion of a finger: it is a good way to set goals for progress and a daily meeting with the uterus. By practising it, the vaginal woman discovers how her vagina works.

Symptothermia allows you to tame your body, to understand it: it allows you to get out of ignorance and to reconnect with yourself. In this sense, it is a formidable ally in the healing of vaginismus.